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Miley Cyrus Responds To Backlash Over Comments About Hip-Hop Music

Miley Cyrus took to social media Saturday to clarify controversial comments she made about rap and hip-hop music in a recent Billboard cover interview.

After talking to the magazine about her new music and her rekindled love for Liam Hemsworth, Cyrus said she “can’t listen to” rap music anymore.

“That’s what pushed me out of the hip-hop scene a little,” she continued. “It was too much ‘Lamborghini, got my Rolex, got a girl on my cock’ — I am so not that.”

People quickly responded online, criticizing Cyrus for the ease with which she could discard a genre that had demonstrably influenced and propelled her previous public persona.

“When articles are read it isn’t always considered that for hours I’ve spoken with a journalist about my life, where my heart is, my perspective at that time, and the next step in my career,” Cyrus began an Instagram caption posted Saturday. “Unfortunately only a portion of that interview made it to print.”

“To be clear, I respect ALL artists who speak their truth and appreciate ALL genres of music (country, pop, alternative … but in this particular interview I was asked about rap),” she continued. “I have always and will continue to love and celebrate hip hop as I’ve collaborated with some of the very best!”  

It sounds like the singer’s intentions were good, but even with the added clarification, Cyrus doesn’t address the crux of much of the criticism — namely, how easily she felt she could don, and subsequently shed, sound and aesthetics borrowed from black culture and music. 

During the time of her 2013 release, “Bangerz,” Cyrus capitalized on the rising trap scene to cement her transition from Disney teen to full-fledged adult singer.

As HuffPost’s Zeba Blay pointed out, “What’s incredibly telling is how, once she achieved that success, it seemed like the plan was always to discard hip-hop music and black culture like the costume that it was,” also noting “how convenient it is for her to call out hip-hop’s misogyny” after trafficking in those same tropes for earlier iterations of her act.

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Author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Under Fire For Comments About Trans Women

Feminist author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has found herself at the center of a controversy over gender identity after comments she made about transgender women during an interview, which can be viewed in the clip above, recently went viral.

Speaking earlier this week with the U.K.’s Channel 4, Adichie, who is promoting her new book Dear Ijeawele Or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions, said, “When people talk about, ‘Are trans women women?’ my feeling is trans women are trans women.” 

Her argument appears to stem from her idea that because many trans women have been assigned and raised male from birth until whatever point they decided to transition, she believes the male privilege they may have received fundamentally sets their experiences apart from those of cisgender women.

“I think the whole problem of gender in the world is about our experiences,” she said. “It’s not about how we wear our hair or whether we have a vagina or a penis. It’s about the way the world treats us, and I think if you’ve lived in the world as a man with the privileges that the world accords to men and then sort of change gender, it’s difficult for me to accept that then we can equate your experience with the experience of a woman who has lived from the beginning as a woman and who has not been accorded those privileges that men are.”

While she did also add that she supports transgender people’s existence, saying they should be “allowed to be,” she ultimately asserts that their experiences should not be “conflated” with women’s experiences. 

“I don’t think it’s a good thing to talk about women’s issues being exactly the same as the issues of trans women because I don’t think that’s true,” she said.

Adichie, who is perhaps best known for her critically and commercially acclaimed book Americanah and a guest spot on Beyoncé’s track “Flawless,” was almost immediately called out on Twitter for her comments.

Raquel Willis, a Black queer transgender activist and the communications associate for Transgender Law Center, offered an especially thoughtful and nuanced response to Adichie’s comments via a series of tweets she posted on Friday night:

Adichie did not immediately reply to a request from The Huffington Post regarding the comments she made during her Channel 4 interview.

Update: Adichie posted the following comments on her Facebook page on Saturday morning:

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Trump’s Comments About Women Pair Frighteningly Well With Sexist Old Ads

Surprise, surprise: Many of President Donald Trump’s comments about women pair quite well with sexist vintage advertisements. 

A new project by Syrian artist Saint Hoax reimagines some of Trump’s thoughts about women as slogans on old print advertisements. The series, titled “Make America Misogynistic Again,” highlights how easy it would be to confuse the president’s thoughts about women with sexist commentary from more than half a century ago. 

Saint Hoax said he was initially doing research for a different project, when he stumbled upon vintage sexist advertisements and was inspired to create “Make America Misogynistic Again.” 

“I decided to match the visuals with sexist Trump quotes and show them to my friends without actually telling them where I got the quotes from,” he told The Huffington Post. “I told them that these were the actual advertisements that were published in the 1950s and ‘60s and they believed it. When I revealed the truth, they were in complete shock.” 

There should be a stark contrast between sexist ads from 70 ago and our current president’s comments, but there isn’t. Trump’s now-infamous remarks about grabbing women “by the pussy,” and how “you have to treat [women] like shit” pair alarmingly well with ads that depict a husband spanking his wife, or a woman as an actual rug with a man standing on top of her. 

“The way women are represented in the media has shifted drastically since these advertisements were initially published,” Saint Hoax said. “Sadly, Donald Trump is trying to take America back to the ‘Mad Men’ era. I’m hoping that these posters would make people realize that Trump’s ‘locker room talk’ is extremely dangerous.”  

Scroll below to see all of the prints from Saint Hoax’s “Make America Misogynistic Again.” 

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Johnny Galecki Comments On That Supposed ‘Big Bang Theory’ Trump Warning

The vanity card at the end of Thursday night’s episode of “The Big Bang Theory” was no bazinga.

At the close of the episode on the eve of the presidential inauguration, a card from creator Chuck Lorre flashed on the screen with lyrics to George Harrison’s song “Beware of Darkness” and a timely quote from Monty Python:

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The card is largely viewed as an anti-Donald Trump message, especially since Lorre, an outspoken critic of Trump, has referenced the now-president in cards before

While stopping by Build Series to talk about his new horror movie “Rings,” actor Johnny Galecki, aka Leonard from “The Big Bang Theory,” said he didn’t see the card, but talked about Lorre’s character, calling him “generous” and “giving.”

“I know whatever he wrote, his heart’s in the right place,” said Galecki.

Though, the actor added, “We’re a comedy at the end of the day, and I think there’s a danger in making this show a political lightning rod, so we’re aware of that. Other people would do it better, anyway.”

While Galecki makes solid points, the comment that “other people would do it better” is debatable. After all, with everything going on in the world, it’d be pretty great to hear the “Soft Kitty” song right about now.

For everyone who needs to hear “Soft Kitty”:

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EXCLUSIVE Look At Donald Trump’s Military Record In Light Of His Comments On John McCain

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On Saturday, presidential candidate and Mexico’s favorite piñata Donald Trump made some particularly nasty comments about Senator John McCain over his POW experience. Trump said McCain is only a “war hero because he was captured.”

After considerable blowback, Trump remained firm, saying on Sunday that he will not apologize for the comments.

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Jon Stewart Slams Donald Trump Supporters For Defending ‘Mexican Rapists’ Comments

Donald Trump has found himself in the center of controversy since he first announced his bid for presidency, and Jon Stewart is having a field day.

On Thursday night’s show, “The Daily Show” host told viewers he wanted to thank one person “who’s been there really throughout this whole run, but specially near the end of the run.” That person was Trump.

“Donald recently glided back into my life on his solid gold up-and-down people mover, cranked up the unauthorized Neil Young, opened up his crazy hole, and promised me I would never be without material again,” Stewart told his viewers.

The focus of Stewart’s segment was a string of anti-immigrant remarks Trump made during his presidential announcement speech. You may remember hearing the Donald say: “They’re sending people that have lots of problems, and they’re bringing those problems with us. They’re bringing drugs. They’re bringing crime. They’re rapists. And some, I assume, are good people.”

Like many of us, Stewart was baffled by these comments, but even more so by the people who continued to defend them.

“The one good thing to come out of this is that the farce of his candidacy is finally exposed: his un-seriousness on display, for all people and voters to see! And the results will be obvious,” said Stewart, before showing that Trump is actually in second place among Republican voters in a national poll in three states flashed on screen.

“F–k me,” was all he could say.

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Mom’s Honest, Inspiring Response To Comments About Her ‘Perfect’ Body

Mom and musician Kimberly Henderson gained a following back in December after her gorgeous lullaby cover of Whitney Houston’s “How Will I Know” went viral.

Seven months and countless media appearances later, Henderson is back in the spotlight for a different reason. On June 19, the mother of four shared a selfie that shows off her “imperfect” stomach — stretch marks and all.

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“I decided to upload this pic and leave my belly ‘unedited’ ‘unphotoshopped’ because I used to struggle with accepting my body after kids,” she wrote in the caption. “I used to have a six pack before my babies.. And now even though I work out I know its not going to make my loose skin tight.. Or my stretch marks disappear ever lol and I’m ok with that because everyday I get to wake up to four beautiful smiling faces and I’m reminded that they are worth this flabby belly and they are worth these stretch marks.”

Henderson also opened up about her body image struggles as a young mom comparing herself to other girls her age. “I’m not trying to say I have it worse than anyone else,” she said, adding that she just wanted to share an empowering message with her fellow moms: “[Y]our body is beautiful… BECAUSE we ARE moms and we ARE superheroes and we freakin ROCK and in my opinion that is sexier than any six pack!”

As of Wednesday afternoon, the Facebook post had over 110,000 likes and thousands of comments. Henderson told The Huffington Post that she was touched by the large influx of positive comments, especially seeing “so many women and MEN lifting each other up about their bodies,” she said.

The musician said she was inspired to post the photo in response to the many comments she often receives from fans and friends about how “perfect” her post-baby body was. “Because of my thin figure people don’t think I have imperfections or insecurities,” she told HuffPost. “I wanted to show other women that I am just like them — stretch marks, loose skin.”

“I can embrace that because to me being sexy is being confident in your own skin,” she continued. “A mother’s body is beautiful and we all have insecurities.”

After years of struggling with body image and refusing to wear anything but a one-piece bathing suit to the beach, Henderson said she’s finally reached a point of being content with her appearance. “I realized that being ‘perfect’ is being imperfect. I wanted to empower other women to do the same!” And, she added, she now proudly wears bikinis. “If I hide [my stomach] that means I’m ashamed and I have nothing to be ashamed about.”

The singer, who will be going to London, Los Angeles, Nashville to work on new music this summer, hopes she can help her fans feel more confident as a show of gratitude for all the support they’ve shown her as she pursues her dreams in the music world. “And I hope I can be someone REAL they can look up to as an musical artist, a mother and a person.”

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Amy Poehler Comments On Death Of ‘Parks & Rec’ Producer Harris Wittels

Amy Poehler was honored at Thursday night’s unite4:humanity gala for her work with Worldwide Orphans Foundation, but the “Parks and Recreation” star used the event to pay tribute to Harris Wittels. The 30-year-old “Parks and Rec” producer, writer and guest star died on Thursday at his home.

“Today, I lost a friend,” Poehler said. “I lost a dear young man in my life, who was struggling with addiction and who died. Just a few hours before we came. […] I’m sharing it with you because life and death live so close together and we walk that fine line every day. At the end of the day when things happen in our lives we turn to the people that we love and we look to our family and our community for support and we lean on people in a hope that they will ease our pain.”

Wittels had gone to rehab twice for drug addiction. He memorably talked about it during an episode of the Nerdist podcast “You Made It Weird.”

“I have done drugs recreationally since I was, like, 12,” Wittels said in the episode, which aired in November of last year. “The thing that happens with opiates is you get sick. You fucking go into withdrawals. So now it’s like I have to do drugs, or I’m not well.”

No cause of death has been determined for Wittels yet. According to the Los Angeles Times, an autopsy will likely be performed this weekend and results of any toxicology tests will not be known for more than six weeks.

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8 Comments That Make You a Horrible Person

In a departure from the usual Happiness column, I feel compelled to share eight comments that real people have actually said that they may not realize are truly horrible. Some may read it and say, “But Valerie… I’ve said that and I’m not a horrible person.” Maybe you aren’t right now, but at the moment those words came out of your mouth, you were. You were horrible. Sorry, that’s just a fact.

This is by no means a definitive list. I’m sure you have a few of your own to add. Feel free.

1. “She’s wonderful. She’s not like other black people at all.”

This was said often by my great uncle, who had exactly one black employee, which he thought made him not a racist. Any time you “compliment” someone for not being like other members of their race, you’re a horrible person. Variations include complimenting someone for being good at some everyday thing that you think is beyond their abilities (like being articulate or a good driver), or assuming someone is good at something like basketball or math or getting the best deal on new carpeting because of their skin color or background. You only add to your horribleness when you say, “It’s okay for me to say this because my best friend is [insert race here].” Keep it safe and just assess people as individuals, based on their demonstrated behavior. Anything more, and you risk being horrible.

2. “Wow, you used to be so beautiful!”

I’ve heard this one twice. Once, when a colleague brought her bridal album in to show another woman some wedding ideas and it became clear that she had gotten married about 90 pounds ago, and once on Facebook, when a friend posted a picture from her youth, and another friend wrote it. The latter got a private note from me, and quickly changed her post to what she should have said in the first place: “Wow, you are so beautiful!”

People change. They age. They get fat. Reminding someone that they are no longer as physically attractive as they once were is mean. And unnecessary. And it makes you a horrible person. Which brings us to the runner up in this category: “You have such a pretty face, if you would just lose weight.” Yep. Horrible person. Next time, put a period after the word face.

3. “My sister-in-law was in labor for 18 hours and the cord was wrapped around her son’s neck, and he was born severely brain damaged. He was perfectly healthy up until then.”

This was said to my friend when she was 7.5 months pregnant. With a boy. She burst into tears.

What is it about seeing a pregnant woman that makes people feel the need to share their harrowing labor/birth defect/stillborn stories? If you see a woman who is clearly about to produce life from her loins, happiness and sunshine better come out of your mouth, or just keep it shut.

4. “My friend did IVF for six years and as soon as they stopped trying, she got pregnant.”

I swear, when you are going through IVF, everyone in the world happens to know someone who got pregnant just by giving up. That baby is about as real as the offspring of the Loch Ness monster and Bigfoot. Every physical act is part of the “trying” process, whether one will admit it or not, so it’s cruel and painful to tell someone to stop trying. For every unique snowflake who gets pregnant naturally after $ 30,000 spent on fertility treatments, there are a thousand heartbroken potential parents who are not at all comforted by your fairy tale. They’re in pain and you’re making it worse.

Close runner up: “Maybe this is for the best. Don’t you think you’re too old to have a baby?” This was said to me by a family member one week after I miscarried my daughter, after four years and $ 30,000 spent trying and “not trying.”

Also, don’t ever ask an infertile couple if they’ve considered adoption. Do you really think that had never crossed their minds until you suggested it? Nothing will come of asking that other than an even more painful conversation.

Stick with, “I really wish you guys the best of luck.” That’s all there is to say.

5. “Did you try to have children of your own?”

I could write an entire post about the idiotic things people say to adoptive parents, often in front of their children, particularly if those children are a different race. For a mother, her adopted child is a “child of her own,” and her journey to motherhood is none of your damn business. Instead, bust out with, “What a beautiful family! I’m so happy for all of you.”

6a. “All that kid needs is a smack on the ass.”
6b. “It is disgusting that people medicate their children instead of just parenting them.”

I am embarrassed to admit, these are things I’ve said in the past. Repeatedly. Before I knew better. It’s so easy to pass judgment on parents and children without knowing all the facts, but that excuse doesn’t make me any less horrible for having said those things and others like them.

My cousin’s son has a mental illness. These comments are just a small sampling of things that have been said to her, sometimes in front of him. They are mean-spirited, disparaging, ignorant and heartbreaking. From the outside, we have no idea what kind of parent someone is or what their child’s special needs might be, so it’s best to pipe down. Making a comment isn’t making the world a better place. Next time, smile and try, “It’s the hardest job in the world. Is there anything I can do to help?”

(Speaking of children with different needs and abilities – if a small person in a costume comes to your house on Thursday night and doesn’t make eye contact or can’t manage to say, “Trick or treat,” be a decent human being and happily give them the candy without making a big deal out of it. Their beleaguered parents will be eternally grateful.)

7. “That medicine is poison. It actually causes cancer.”

This gem was said to a dear friend of mine who was put on Prednisone for her severe allergies, after countless doctors and several years of nothing else working. Way to go, horrible person with no medical training whatsoever! Your eight words caused an extremely ill woman to spend two hours on the phone crying to me, in sheer panic and desperation.

A close runner up in the illness category is, “You don’t look sick,” usually said in an accusatory or suspicious tone, since the speaker clearly has X-ray vision and can medically scan a total stranger’s internal organs. Need something to say in the face of illness? Best option is, “I’m so sorry you’re still not feeling well. Do you need any help?”

8. “Everything happens for a reason.”

I understand. Someone has passed and you feel the need to say something to the loved ones, but you don’t need to be original or special. No one is waiting for your witty bon mots. Stick with what is 100-percent safe: “I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts. Please let me know if there is anything I can do.”

Follow that with silence. Silence is your friend. It’s okay to just quietly be there for someone when they need to cry, or yell, or fall apart, without pouring fuel on it by saying something potentially hurtful.

When I was a junior in high school, my best friend died of a brain tumor. I will never forget standing next to her mother at the funeral, hearing person after person say to her, “Everything happens for a reason.”

Each time, she had to grit her teeth and resist the urge to slug them in the jaw. For a parent who has lost a child, there is absolutely no freaking reason. Keep that thought to yourself.

Also, if someone else’s religious beliefs don’t jibe with yours, the death of their loved one is not the time to make that clear. And if you are using the death of someone’s child to evangelize about your religion to them, then you are a horrible person and whatever God you believe in is pissed that you’re doing it in his name.

We have an obligation on this planet not to make life more sucky than it already is for anyone else, so take a fearless self-inventory and choose your words more carefully next time. Every time.

Ask yourself if what you’re about to say will benefit anyone other than you, and if the answer is, “no,” swallow those words and find a way to be as loving and harmless as possible. Do your best not to be horrible. That will make the world a much happier place.

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