Luke Perry’s daughter attacks ‘grief shamers’ on Instagram

Luke Perry’s daughter has hit out at people who have “shamed” her grieving process.
Entertainment News – Latest Celebrity & Showbiz News | Sky News

ENTERTAINMENT SPECIALS:

Help Desk: Dealing With Anxiety, Mental Illness and Grief

In her latest Help Desk column, Judith Newman consults three books that offer guidance to readers navigating through tense times.
NYT > Books

BOOK SALE UPDATE!

A football family and a sportswriter, bound by grief

After Tyler Hilinski ended his life, Ivan Maisel and the Washington State quarterback’s family are connected by a pain they hope we never understand.
www.espn.com – TOP
SuperStarTickets

Lady Gaga Shares Message Before Grammys About Transforming ‘Grief’ That Inspired Joanne Into ‘Hope’

Just hours before the 2018 Grammy Awards, Lady Gaga shared a touching message about the late aunt who inspired her latest album Joanne.

“I have carried a deep grief in my heart over my family’s tragedy,” she wrote on social media, referring to her late aunt, Joanne Stefani Germanotta, who died of lupus complications at age 19.

“The loss of Joanne affected my father so deeply that it affected me. When he cried, I cried. When he was angry, I was angry. When he was hurt, I hurt,” she continued.

She added, “Today I transform this grief to hope and healing. After 10 years with you I still get nervous before the Grammys, but I know I have an angel with me.”

https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js

The 31-year-old songstress also shared the heartfelt message alongside a picture of “me and @MarcRonson writing #Joanne.”

“I love you little monsters,” she added.

Be sure to check out PEOPLE’s full Grammys coverage to get the latest news on music’s big night.

In addition to performing at the Grammys this year, Gaga has been nominated for best pop solo performance (“Million Reasons”) and best pop vocal album (Joanne).

The singer had previously shared how “honored” she felt to be performing from her deeply personal album at the award show.

“I’m so honored to be singing from #Joanne,” she wrote on Saturday, adding, “This album and moment with little monsters means so much to me.”

RELATED: Why Are Stars Wearing White Roses to the Grammys?

Though the pop star was born nearly 12 years after Joanne’s death, she remains one of Gaga’s biggest influences.

“When Mark and I wrote it, the decision to name the album that was in tribute to my father’s sister who died when she was 19,” she told Beats 1’s Zane Lowe of her poet/painter aunt in September 2016, one month before her album’s release.

She went on to reveal that the album encompassed “everything about Joanne, which also happens to be my middle name.”

“It’s all the toughness of the pain of losing her that made us all strong and made us who we are,” Gaga added. “She is the woman of my past who is becoming and helping me bring more of my honest woman self into the future.”

RELATED VIDEO: Here’s the List of Nominees for the 2018 Grammy Awards

On Saturday, the 31-year-old was also spotted stepping out hand-in-hand with  boyfriend Christian Carino as they made their way to Marta Italian Restaurant in New York City following Grammys rehearsals on Saturday.

PEOPLE confirmed Gaga and Carino’s romance in February 2017, weeks after the budding couple was spotted getting affectionate at a Kings of Leon concert and cuddling on the Super Bowl LI field.

The 60th annual Grammy Awards, hosted by James Corden, are broadcast live from Madison Square Garden in New York City on CBS starting at 7:30 p.m. ET on Sunday.


PEOPLE.com

Fashion Deals Update:

Books of The Times: In Joe Biden’s Memoir, Private Grief and Its Effect on a Public Life

People who have lost someone will take comfort from what Biden has to say about losing his son Beau to brain cancer in “Promise Me, Dad.”
NYT > Books

BOOK SALE UPDATE!

Books of The Times: In ‘Grief Cottage,’ a Ghost and Other Things That Haunt Us

Gail Godwin’s latest novel follows a young boy sent to live with a great-aunt after his mother’s death.
NYT > Books

BOOK SALE UPDATE!

Grief Is A Cell Phone Not Answered

I reached for my phone as soon as I got into the car the other day and started to call my husband. It was muscle memory at work, playing a cruel trick on me. 

For about 30 years, I called my husband every day as I left work ― or anyplace else for that matter ― to let him know that I was on my way. Letting one another know our whereabouts became a habit that eventually was picked up by our kids. Until she graduated high school, my daughter called me precisely at 3:05 p.m. every school day to say she was getting on the bus.

We are one of those families who calls while the plane is still taxiing to the gate to say that it landed safely. We call when we are stuck in traffic to say we may be late. If we stop unexpectedly at the supermarket for milk, we call so that nobody will worry.  We call when we get in the Uber (and sometimes snap a photo of the driver because you just can’t be too sure of anything these days). We call when we leave the restaurant where we had dinner with friends and take the family “breathalyzer” test where we have to recite all our birthdays and middle names. We call as soon as we clear the elevators as we exit the doctor’s office. We would probably call sooner but our reception in elevators is spotty. It’s just our thing. Or at least it was.

My husband died after a long illness on Jan. 4. In most ways grieving-wise, I feel like I am handling his loss appropriately ― which is to say I somehow manage to get out of bed every morning, have reduced the mountain of post-death paperwork I was buried under, and am trying to resurrect my pre-caregiving social life although I’m trapped in that cycle of making plans in earnest and then canceling them at the last minute from inertia. It’s all par for the course, I’m told.

I also am careful to not set myself up for sadness. I stay busy in life-affirming pursuits ― I cook, I garden, I bring soup to sick friends ― and have edited my music playlist to avoid the sad songs. I couldn’t listen to k.d. lang sing “Hallelujah” without sobbing before, so no reason to think I could hear it now with different results.

But that moment in the parking garage last week, when I sat frozen in my car with my cell phone in my hand, a shockwave of awareness washed over me: I had nobody to call. Nobody who was waiting to hear from me. Nobody who particularly cared when I would be getting home or how my day went. Nobody to have a glass of wine ready for me or dinner started. Nobody who argued with the cable company or made sure the oil in my car was changed or took a beloved dog to the vet on her last day when I just couldn’t. 

I was now alone. And the devil of that was in the details. I had nobody to call.

I sank. Rapidly. And was reminded of the big difference between feeling lonesome and feeling alone. Lonesome is your state of being when you have no one available to be with you. The short-term fix is a Netflix binge and remembering to make plans in advance for next weekend.

Being alone? That’s a whole other nightmare. Sometimes, you can be alone even when you are surrounded by people and activities and somehow, they don’t get counted by your heart. 

In the car that day, I remembered the last time I had felt this alone. It was one night in my 20s when I confused lust for love and watched a man I barely knew leave my apartment in the pre-dawn hours knowing I would never see him again. Casual sex, for me, has always been a contradiction of terms. And when he left, I felt very alone. 

Back then, someone sent me this quote from cartoonist Jules Feiffer:

I live in a shell
Which is inside a dungeon
Which is inside a fortress
Which is under the ground
Which is under the sea
Where I am safe
From you.
If you loved me, you would find me.

My husband was a good man. He was honest and decent and never left me feeling alone. He always found me. Now if he would just answer the damn phone.

— This feed and its contents are the property of The Huffington Post, and use is subject to our terms. It may be used for personal consumption, but may not be distributed on a website.

Weddings – The Huffington Post
FASHION NEWS-Visit Shoe Deals Online-Fashion News today for the hottest deals online!

Author Of The Shack Shares Five Tips For Dealing With Grief

What words of wisdom do you have for people who are going through grief or hardship? originally appeared on Quorathe place to gain and share knowledge, empowering people to learn from others and better understand the world..

Answer by Wm Paul Young, Author of New York Times Best Seller, The Shack, on Quora:

What words of wisdom do you have for people who are going through grief or hardship? Thank you for the tenderness of this question. Here are a few, I hope helpful thoughts.

First, you are not alone, even though every one puts their best face forward on social media and even in human interactions, everyone knows about loss. There is a huge benefit in the element of faith, in a God who is good all the time and present to my losses.

Second, simplify. We get overwhelmed by the complexity of our losses, all the questions, and are tempted to start ‘future tripping’ – imagining a future that is dominated by loss and things never change. It is not real but seems real to us. Simplify and reduce the world to only today and stay inside the grace of this one day. Tomorrow you will get grace for whatever it actually holds and not what you have imagined.

Third, let people in. We are not designed to try and make our way alone through loss. Healing comes through community and relationship.

Fourth, be willing to let the loss go. This is a cost that some are not willing to pay. The loss becomes an identity and sometimes a prison that we begin to call a sanctuary.

Fifth, but (in light of the last suggestion), grieve and lament well. Throw the apples against the barn door with all your might and scream. Don’t suppress the presence of the wounds of loss. The way out is in and through.

This question originally appeared on Quora. – the knowledge sharing network where compelling questions are answered by people with unique insights. You can follow Quora on Twitter, Facebook, and Google+.

More questions:

— This feed and its contents are the property of The Huffington Post, and use is subject to our terms. It may be used for personal consumption, but may not be distributed on a website.

GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
Special News Bulletin-http://www.acrx.org -As millions of Americans strive to deal with the economic downturn,loss of jobs,foreclosures,high cost of gas,and the rising cost of prescription drug cost. Charles Myrick ,the President of American Consultants Rx, announced the re-release of the American Consultants Rx community service project which consist of millions of free discount prescription cards being donated to thousands of not for profits,hospitals,schools,churches,etc. in an effort to assist the uninsured,under insured,and seniors deal with the high cost of prescription drugs.-American Consultants Rx -Pharmacy Discount Network News

Books of The Times: Review: ‘Lincoln in the Bardo’ Shows a President Haunted by Grief

In his first novel, George Saunders imagines Lincoln and the ghosts that encircle him.
NYT > Books

BOOK SALE UPDATE!

You Can Actually Die From Grief

Just hours after her daughter, Carrie Fisher, died of a heart attack on Dec. 27, actress Debbie Reynolds reportedly suffered a fatal stroke at the age of 84.

“She’s now with Carrie, and we’re all heartbroken,” Reynolds’ son, Todd Fisher, said from Cedars-Sinai Medical Center, according to the Associated Press. The stress of his sister’s death “was too much” for his mother, Fisher said.

While it’s impossible to say whether or not acute distress contributed to Reynolds’ death, it’s medically possible for stressful life events to trigger fatal health outcomes.

“Grief is a highly personal experience,” Dr. Jose Biller, professor and chairman of the stroke center at Loyola University Chicago and a spokesman for the American Stroke and Heart Associations, told The Huffington Post. 

Grief over the death of a significant person has been associated with an immediate increased risk of cardiovascular ailments, Biller explained. Indeed, there’s significant research on what’s known as the “widowhood effect,” where the death of a spouse increases the living partner’s chances of dying.

Take, for instance, a 2014 matched cohort study published in JAMA Internal Medicine, which compared older adults between the ages of 60 and 89 from a U.K. primary database who experienced the death of their partner to those who didn’t, between 2005 and 2012. 

The researchers found that within a month of their partner’s death, bereaved male and female participants were at an increased risk for a stroke or heart attack compared to their peers who hadn’t experienced the loss of a partner. (That heightened risk of heart attack and stroke dropped back down after 30 days.)

“Broken” and “happy” heart syndromes

There’s also a phenomenon known as “broken heart” syndrome, or takotsubo cardiomyopathy, which mimics the symptoms of a heart attack and is characterized by chest pain, and shortness of breath following severe emotional or physical stress. This phenomenon happens despite no evidence of coronary artery obstruction, according to Harvard Women’s Health Watch.

“Broken heart” syndrome is rarely fatal, according to Harvard Women’s Health Watch, and most people who experience the syndrome recover quickly, without any long-term damage from the resulting low blood pressure, chest pain or shortness of breath. 

And although negative life events are much more likely to trigger takotsubo cardiomyopathy than positive ones, it turns out that positive stress (such as a surprise birthday party, for instance) can trigger similar heart problems, according to a study published in March in the European Heart Journal. 

Both “broken” and “happy” heart syndromes occur almost exclusively in women, and although researchers don’t know for certain why that is, they theorize that there could be a link between post-menopausal women’s lowered estrogen levels and takotsubo cardiomyopathy.

While deaths from broken heart syndrome are exceptionally rare, cardiac damage from grief can cause long-term damage, especially if you’re already at risk for cardiovascular events. According to research reported in Circulation: Journal of the American Heart Association in 2012, heart attack survivors’ risk for an attack spiked by 21 percent in the 24 hours after the death of a significant loved one and remained six times higher than normal for the following week. 

For Biller, one of the biggest takeaway from Reynolds’ death is that both the brain and heart are altered by grief. “There is no question about this exquisite and multidimensional brain-heart connection,” he said, noting that more research needs to be conducted on that connection.

“After all, we are not just flesh,” he said. “Emotions. Mental illness. The spiritual life. We are very complex organisms.“

— This feed and its contents are the property of The Huffington Post, and use is subject to our terms. It may be used for personal consumption, but may not be distributed on a website.

Entertainment – The Huffington Post
Entertainment News-Visit Adults Playland today for the hottest adult entertainment online!

Prince Harry Gets Heartbreakingly Honest About Dealing With Grief

Prince Harry is honoring his mother by opening up about his own grief over her death.

The prince spoke with U.K.-based television outlet ITV about how he handled the tragedy and the impact it had on his mental health.

I never really dealt with what had happened,” Harry said. “It was a lot of buried emotion. For a huge part of my life I didn’t really want to think about it.” 

The interview is part of a new documentary about his charity Sentebale, which he set up in memory of his mother. The organization, which he founded with Prince Seeiso of Lesotho, supports orphans and other vulnerable children in Africa, many of whom are affected by HIV or AIDS.

Harry said his involvement with the initiative, which was also a cause close to Diana’s heart, helped him to eventually explore and process his grief.

“I now view life very differently from what it used to be,” he said. “I used to bury my head in the sand, and let everything around you tear you to pieces.”

Harry isn’t alone in how he managed his emotions. Many struggle with opening up about how they’re feeling following a tragic event and research shows people often yearn for the lost person long after they’re gone

Of course, there isn’t one perfect way to grieve ― everyone’s process is different ― but experts say that talking about and acknowledging your sadness can help. And if it gets too overwhelming, it’s never a bad idea to seek professional support.

Harry also opened up about his mother’s passing at an event honoring athletes dealing with mental health challenges.

“You know, I really regret not ever talking about it,” Harry said, adding that he only recently started focusing on his psychological well-being.

Props to the prince for sharing his own experiences as a way to help others. We’d wager that his mother would be proud.

H/T ABC News

— This feed and its contents are the property of The Huffington Post, and use is subject to our terms. It may be used for personal consumption, but may not be distributed on a website.

Style – The Huffington Post
FASHION NEWS UPDATE-Visit Shoe Deals Online today for the hottest deals online for shoes!

The ‘Gilmore Girls’ Revival Is Best When It Talks About Grief

There’s a moment in the opening chapter of “Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life,” after the first “la las” and Gwyneth Paltrow dig, when the long-awaited Netflix revival finally takes a second to breathe. Fueled by a late-night batch of coffee, Lorelai (Lauren Graham) and Rory (Alexis Bledel) convene in their rarely used kitchen to do the thing they do better than anyone else on television: talk.

“I’m just stressed out and kind of feeling my mortality lately,” Lorelai says after confessing that she willingly flipped through a brochure for an all-expenses-paid cruise, much to the women’s shared horror.

The line is especially significant given that the series, much like its caffeine-infused hero, is also contending with its mortality. Nine years after it was cancelled by the CW on the heels of a rudderless final season, “Gilmore Girls” has become the latest in a long line of early 2000s series to get the revival treatment. But instead of abandoning what made the show so beloved, “A Year in the Life,” at its best, honors the essential themes of the series (family, fighting and Al’s Pancake World, duh) by taking the Gilmore women on a yearlong journey of grief and self-discovery. 

Besides the steady stream of “Tuck Everlasting” water under Stars Hollow that’s apparently keeping everybody ageless, the undercurrent of the revival series is the death of actor Edward Hermann, who embodied Gilmore family patriarch Richard. His absence strikes Lorelai, Rory and his wife of 50 years, Emily (Kelly Bishop), who also shared a deep bond with Hermann off-set, in both devastating and humorous ways.

Each woman is facing a crossroads in life. Lorelai, now in a full-fledged relationship with Luke (Scott Patterson), is questioning her happily ever after. A sizable inheritance for an expansion of Luke’s Diner is revealed to be Richard’s parting gift to his daughter’s presumed husband, although Emily is happy to remind everybody that they haven’t gotten married yet. Emily is unleashed as a widow in mourning, wearing jeans, Marie Kondo-ing her Connecticut mansion and trying to maintain some semblance of normalcy without her other half. She’s made vulnerable by blow of losing a lifelong partner, but still retains the ability to verbally decimate anyone who dares cross her.

“You never do anything unless it’s what you want to do,” Emily seethes at Lorelai in a bitter showdown after she bungles a eulogy at Richard’s wake. “You never have. You blow through life like a natural disaster, knocking down everything and everyone in your path.”

Rory, too, has been affected, but we feel her mourning most acutely in the challenges in her career. See, the great Rory Gilmore is having trouble living up to her potential, bouncing from one freelance journalism gig to another before eventually moving home. We can only imagine that one of the driving forces behind her soul searching is her grandfather’s well-documented expectations of her success. In fact, it’s in his study that she finally discovers her true calling, writing a novel about her family titled Gilmore Girls.

Midway through the first installment we learn that Richard died suddenly due to a massive heart attack. His last words were, “Get the hell away from me,” Lorelai recounts in a therapy session (yes, we get Lorelai and Emily therapy, everybody), leaving his family with little closure and a lot of unresolved anger.

For all the talk of the perpetually chippy “Gilmore” universe, the revival isn’t afraid to go to the dark side, refusing to shy away from the the division and ugliness that can arise after a loved one dies. We witness each of the Gilmore women in a moment of desperation ― Emily’s is wearing jeans, obviously ― but as winter, spring, summer and fall pass, each finds a moment of clarity amid her grief, making them that much more human in the process. 

Graham and Bishop have always done the series’ heavy lifting, but their scenes together in “A Year in the Life” should make dual nominations for the actresses a given come awards season. Without the buffer that’s kept them from tackling a stable of mother-daughter issues, their relationship becomes the prism through which the series most successfully tackles the grieving process. In the closing chapter, “Fall,” an empowered Lorelai is finally able to deliver the eulogy she meant to at the start of the series after coming to a revelation on a “Wild”-inspired adventure.

Her monologue about the “best birthday ever” with her father is too long and heartbreaking to include here, but let’s just say it involves Richard Gilmore, a mall pretzel and the movie “Grease.” In perhaps the most rewarding moment of the four chapters, Graham successfully communicates the complicated but fierce love she had for him while on the phone with a mother that was never truly able to understand her. 

“I got up enough courage to look up at him,” Lorelai tells Emily with tears streaming down her face. “And he was standing there with a pretzel. A giant pretzel, covered with mustard. And he handed it to me and he said, ‘Let’s go.’ And he took me to the movies.”

Big deaths on television are commonplace these days, as the stakes have been considerably raised since “Gilmore Girls” went off the air. What distinguished the series, even back when it was airing before “One Tree Hill,” however, is that it has never been particularly plot-heavy. Series creator Amy Sherman-Palladino doled out big life moments with a glorious stinginess in the original run, making sure the audience recognized the importance of each one.

We sobbed along at Rory’s Chilton graduation because the series had earned our tears and now we mourn Richard and Hermann’s death because the revival treats it with the gravity it deserves. Instead of limiting grief to some easily digestible three-episode arc, “Gilmore Girls” prefers to look death straight in the eye, much like the series “Six Feet Under” (shoutout to newly minted park ranger Peter Krause), by authentically exploring what these women have lost over the course of a year and how it has shaped them.

And as for those final four words, with death comes life. So as Lorelai Gilmore would say: “Full freakin’ circle.” 

— This feed and its contents are the property of The Huffington Post, and use is subject to our terms. It may be used for personal consumption, but may not be distributed on a website.

Entertainment – The Huffington Post
Entertainment News-Visit Adults Playland today for the hottest adult entertainment online!

Overcoming Your Grief: Learn The Secrets To Healthy Grieving and How To Move Forward With Your Life

Overcoming Your Grief: Learn The Secrets To Healthy Grieving and How To Move Forward With Your Life


Overcoming Your Grief: Learn The Secrets To Healthy Grieving and How To Move Forward With Your Life This book covers several topics including: Chapter 1: The Truth About Emotional Intelligence Chapter 2: Funeral Eulogies Meaningful Words For Funeral Services Chapter 3: Bereavement Poetry Meaningful Words For Memorial Services Chapter 4: Healthy Grief Unhealthy Grief Chapter 5: Katrina – What Its Like To Be An Evacuee Chapter 6: Grief Loss Chapter 7: A Simple Formula For Overcoming Fear And Worry Chapter 8: How To Scatter Cremated Remains Ashes Chapter 9: Celebrate Life Using Online Memorials And Other Funeral Services To Remember Chapter 10: Life Trumps Death Chapter 11: Ten Ideas For Creating A Memorial After The Funeral Or Life Celebration Chapter 12: Releasing Relationship Pain Chapter 13: When You Cannot Attend A Memorial Service Writing A Condolence Letter Can Help Chapter 14: The Problem With The Rebound Chapter 15: Online Memorials Sharing Family History And Life Stories Online Chapter 16: Using Condolence Poems In Eulogies Or Condolence Letters Chapter 17: Sympathy Flowers – Advice From Experts Scroll up. and click on “Buy Now” to deliver almost instantly to your Kobo or other reading device.

Price: $
Sold by Kobo U.S

Joe Biden Speaks Candidly About Grief, Loss And Faith In Revealing Stephen Colbert Interview

In an emotional interview, Vice President Joe Biden spoke candidly on Thursday about the recent death of his son Beau, extensively discussing his grief and how it has made it difficult for him to commit to a potential presidential bid in 2016 despite growing calls for him to run.

“I don’t think any man or woman should run for president unless, number one, they know exactly why they would want to be president; and two, they can look at folks out there and say, ‘I promise you have my whole heart, my whole soul, my energy and my passion,'” he told comedian Stephen Colbert in an interview that will air Thursday night on CBS’ “The Late Show.” 

“I’d be lying if I said that I knew I was there. I’m being completely honest,” Biden continued. “Nobody has a right in my view to seek that office unless they are willing to give it 110 percent of who they are.”

Biden has repeatedly indicated that his family is the primary factor in his decision whether or not to run and has said that he is unsure if he possesses the “emotional energy” to run.

He spoke at length about his grief on Thursday, recounting memories of Beau and frequently appearing close to tears.

“I was a hell of a success. My son was better than me. He was better than me in every way,” he said of Beau, who died in May after battling brain cancer.

The vice president also spoke about how his Catholic faith has helped him cope with Beau’s death, saying that religion gives him “enormous sense of solace.”

“I go to mass and I’m able to be just alone, even in a crowd,” he said. “It’s just a place you can go.” 

He revealed that he feels “self-conscious” about the outpouring of support he received, noting that “so many people who have losses as severe or maybe worse than mine and don’t have the support I have.”

“No one owes you anything,” he said. “You gotta get up. And I feel like I was letting down Beau, letting down my parents, letting down my family if I didn’t just get up. I marvel at the ability of people who absorb hurt and just get back up.”

 

Colbert eventually asked Biden about the mounting rumors that he may pursue a presidential bid.

“I want to talk about the elephant in the room, which in this case is a donkey. Do you have anything to tell us about your plans?” he asked.

“I think you should run for president again, and I’ll be your vice president,” Biden quipped, referencing the time Colbert briefly was a presidential candidate in 2008.

Biden also joked about his tendency to speak out of turn as vice president when his microphone suddenly shut off at the beginning of the interview.

“By the way, they do this to me at the White House all the time — shut my mic off,” Biden said.

But most of the interview covered serious matters. Colbert, who himself has experienced immense loss, losing his father and two brothers in plane crash when he was just 10 years old, seemed to support a Biden candidacy, arguing that Biden’s experiences would give him a unique perspective.

“It’s going to be emotional for a lot of people if you don’t run,” he told Biden. “Your example of suffering and service is something that would be sorely missed in the race.”

Also on HuffPost:

— This feed and its contents are the property of The Huffington Post, and use is subject to our terms. It may be used for personal consumption, but may not be distributed on a website.




Comedy – The Huffington Post
ENTERTAINMENT NEWS-Visit Mobile Playboy today for the hottest adult entertainment online!

The 5 Stages Of Grief For The TV Show You Just Finished Binge-Watching

In an ideal world, we wouldn’t use TV to suppress our emotions. But it’s not an ideal world, so let’s do what we need to do to get through the day!

Binge-watching can be very helpful during a life crisis situation when you need to not feel your feelings and invest in a fake person’s drama instead. This is all well and good (or actually, not good but we’re doing it anyway) until you hit the last episode of the show, and your world away from your real life is suddenly no longer.

You have to leave the West Wing. Or Stars Hollow. Or Lockhart-Gardner, or Capeside, or Pawnee. And go back to your own surroundings, with the credit card debt that’s piling up and the texts you didn’t respond to because actually locking down a date for the drinks you’re supposed to have with your casual friend from college seemed so overwhelming that you just closed your eyes and sat on your phone as though that would make the row of emojis she sent self-destruct.

Maybe your looming unaddressed problems haven’t yet fully come back into consciousness. All you know for sure is when the episode cut to credits, your stomach drops like the one time you rode Superman after your friends peer-pressured you on a sixth-grade trip to Six Flags and you regretted it as soon as the coaster started its upward climb. (Trauma from middle school may or may not be a top thing we’re repressing with television.)

This gut-dropping feeling will usually be very uncomfortable and precipitate a period of grieving for the show you just watched. Yes, you’re missing the series itself: after upwards of 15 hours a week of a show over an extended period of time, the characters really do start to feel like your friends (or FRENEMIES Paris Geller I’m looking at you) and the communities really do feel like your home (still dreaming of living in Capeside — the creek by Dawson’s house truly is picturesque.)

But besides the actual show, you’re probably also missing the safety of immersing yourself in a reality that’s not your own — which can make the withdrawal all the more painful. Fiction is powerful, you guys, and so is the human ability to repress!

Your emotional stages will probably look something like this:

1. Denial
willgardnerdenial
There’s really no denying the fact that you’ve watched a series finale. But there are plenty of ways to deny that your time with the show is really over. If you’ve just spent months binge-watching a show that the rest of the world’s already been caught up on, for example, you still have a lot of show-related media to consume … right? “I can read all the recaps!” you might think. “Let me find those those think pieces I bookmarked when I was worried about spoilers.”

Then you will do this. Anxious feelings will begin to creep closer to the surface. Then you will discover DVD extras ripped to YouTube. You will watch all of those. Then you will find fan videos recommended by YouTube. You will watch all of those. And as the last montage of Josh and Donna scenes set to a Coldplay song ends, you will worry for a second that you’ve really reached the end. Then you will read some fan-fic.

When your frantic googling of the show’s title with various permutations of the word “scene” (“the good wife bar scene,” “the good wife elevator scene,” “the good wife car scene”) finally brings up all previously clicked links, you’ll start to feel dread approach the center of your chest. But before it really settles in, your body’s defense mechanisms will turn it into…

2. Anger
joshdonnaanger
With no new input from your TV show coming in, you’re left at this point to consider all the ways the series ultimately wronged you. Why is that the way it went down with Luke/Lorelai, Will/Alicia, Pacey/Joey, Leslie/Ben or Jim/Pam? Why will I never be able to see what it looks like for Josh and Donna to be in a functioning relationship as adults who actually respect each other? I invested all that time and you’re not even going to bring back Zosia Mamet’s character for one single scene in the last season of “Mad Men”? I acknowledge it wouldn’t have really made sense but she was an interesting companion for Peggy.

Eventually, your brain will realize this anger is all just because you’re facing the reality of no new episodes. Then the fury will transition into disbelief at yourself.

3. Bargaining
paceyjoey2
Why did I watch so many episodes so fast? I could have made this show last for three more months. I legit skipped my friend’s boyfriend’s birthday party to watch six episodes two Saturday nights ago. If I hadn’t done that, I would have gone to a birthday party that it was really kind of a faux pas for me to miss in the first place and I would also still have six more episodes to watch. Why did I regularly stay up two hours past my ideal bedtime because I had to know what was going to happen with Pacey and Joey even though I walked around tired for literally a month?

Why am I worthless.

4. Depression
roryjess
Remember how TV was distracting you from your real-life problems? This is a cool stage where all of those come bubbling up to the surface and demanding you take actionable steps toward fixing them if you ever want to stop crying on the subway. You may stumble around with dead eyes for a couple weeks and make bargains with the snooze button each morning. You might lie there and wonder what’s going on with Rory’s journalist life, or if she ever gets back with Jess.

Eventually, you’ll hit a point where you have to make some changes: find a new job, move to an apartment with cheaper rent, break up with the “not a boyfriend” sucking all the energy out of your soul. Hopefully this will give you a nice life reset, allowing you to move into new situations that are fine for a few months — before throwing new crisis curveballs your way.

This is when the delayed depression wave will hit. You thought you’d finally moved forward, but now you need your comfort show more than over. Things are looking very, very bleak.

5. Acceptance
brookelucas
Then you’ll find out “One Tree Hill” is on Netflix. You’ll go to Season 1, Episode 1 and press play.

— This feed and its contents are the property of The Huffington Post, and use is subject to our terms. It may be used for personal consumption, but may not be distributed on a website.

Entertainment – The Huffington Post
Entertainment News-Visit Adults Playland today for the hottest adult entertainment online!

Grief and the Veteran: An Inside Look

On Memorial Day, we take pause to remember and pay tribute to those Americans who died in active military service. Earlier this month I took the opportunity to address a dedicated group of psychotherapists who generously donate their time to provide pro bono counseling to veterans through a program called The Soldiers Project. I was moved and inspired by the warmth and caring these therapists displayed as they spoke of the men and women who have served our country and returned from a tour of duty in need of a listening ear.

The complicated psychological issues facing veterans usually lead mental health professionals to consider three common diagnoses: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Anxiety, and Major Depression. For PTSD we address the nightmares, flashbacks, and startle responses. For anxiety we teach relaxation techniques. For depression we teach methods for stopping negative thoughts.

I then posed the question: “What about the grief that the veterans may be carrying but not mentioning?”

As is often the case in society in general, there was acknowledgement that grief is often overlooked or ignored among those serving in the armed forces. After all, people in the military are taught to “be brave”, “buck up,” or not let their emotions show. I offered several scenarios for consideration.

Scenario #1: The soldier who received a letter informing him that his best friend from high school died. He was unable to have time off to attend memorial services and thus he was deprived of the opportunity to laugh, cry, and reminisce with his friends back home. His buddies in Afghanistan didn’t know the one who died and it felt awkward to talk to them about his sorrow. By the time he returned home to family and friends, no one asked about his grief.

Scenario #2: The veteran who flew home the midst of her tour of duty because her father (who had served in Vietnam) was dying. While she knew in her heart how proud he was that she was serving her country, there could be no conversation about that now as her father lay in the hospital unconscious. She was grateful to able to spend her father’s last few hours at his bedside and remain at home for the funeral but she had to fly out that afternoon. Her longing to have just one more conversation with her dad left her feeling lost and abandoned.

Scenario #3: The couple that met while on a tour of duty and whose plans for marriage will never come to fruition because the bride-to-be died in Iraq. When the day arrives that would have been their wedding day, he is too numb and embarrassed to tell anyone.

One of the highlights of the workshop was when a veteran in attendance offered to participate in a mock psychotherapy session. As we spoke together, this courageous man shared memories of two of his buddies who died in combat using phrases like: “Why did I make it and they didn’t?” “I missed the funeral and memorial rituals, I guess it’s too late now.”

Through our conversation I validated Mark’s feelings and the fact that grief doesn’t just disappear over time. How being able to express long-bottled-up grief has great value. How it is never too late to create a memorial ritual. And before our session ended Mark had decided to go home and write letters in his journal to his two buddies, telling them what he wishes he could say to them now.

If you or someone you know have experienced a death, please take the time you need to process your grief. To all those who have served our country or who are remembering a Veteran, may Memorial Day bring some measure of peace and calm to your heart.

Fredda Wasserman, MA, MPH, LMFT, CT, is the Clinical Director of Adult Programs and Education at OUR HOUSE Grief Support Center, one of the nation’s most respected centers for grief support and education. Fredda presents workshops and seminars on end of life and grief for therapists, clergy, educators, and medical and mental health professionals at locations throughout the country. She is the co-author of Saying Goodbye to Someone You Love: Your Emotional Journey Through End of Life and Grief. Recognized as an expert in death, dying, and bereavement, Fredda has devoted her career to life’s final chapter.

_______________

Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

— This feed and its contents are the property of The Huffington Post, and use is subject to our terms. It may be used for personal consumption, but may not be distributed on a website.

GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
Special News Bulletin-http://www.acrx.org -As millions of Americans strive to deal with the economic downturn,loss of jobs,foreclosures,high cost of gas,and the rising cost of prescription drug cost. Charles Myrick ,the President of American Consultants Rx, announced the re-release of the American Consultants Rx community service project which consist of millions of free discount prescription cards being donated to thousands of not for profits,hospitals,schools,churches,etc. in an effort to assist the uninsured,under insured,and seniors deal with the high cost of prescription drugs.-American Consultants Rx -Pharmacy Discount Network News

Dealing with Dying, Death, and Grief during Adolescence

Dealing with Dying, Death, and Grief during Adolescence


For some, life’s introduction to death and grief comes early, and when it does it can take many forms. Not only does Dealing with Dying, Death, and Grief during Adolescence tackle them all, it does so with David Balk’s remarkable sensitivity to and deep knowledge of the pressures and opportunities adolescents face in their transition from childhood to adulthood. In seamless, jargon-free language, Balk brings readers up to date with what we know about adolescent development, because over time such changes form the backstory we need to comprehend the impact of death and bereavement in an adolescent’s life. The book’s later chapters break down the recent findings in the study of life-threatening illness and bereavement during adolescence. And, crucially, these chapters also examine interventions that assist adolescents coping with these difficulties. Clinicians will come away from this book with both a grounded understanding of adolescent development and the adolescent experience of death, and they’ll also gain specific tools for helping adolescents cope with death and grief on their own terms. For any clinician committed to supporting adolescents facing some of life’s most difficult experiences, this integrated, up-to-date, and deeply insightful text is simply the book to have. David E. Balk is professor in the department of health and nutrition sciences at Brooklyn College (CUNY), where he directs the graduate program in thanatology. He is the author of Adolescent Development: Early Through Late Adolescence, Helping the Bereaved College Student, and several other books on death and bereavement. He is also co-editor of the 2nd edition of the Handbook of Thanatology (Routledge, 2013).

Price: $
Sold by Kobo Inc.

African American Grief

African American Grief


African American Grief is a unique contribution to the field, both as a professional resource for counselors, therapists, social workers, clergy, and nurses, and as a reference volume for thanatologists, academics, and researchers. This work considers the potential effects of slavery, racism, and white ignorance and oppression on the African American experience and conception of death and grief in America. Based on interviews with 26 African-Americans who have faced the death of a significant person in their lives, the authors document, describe, and analyze key phenomena of the unique African-American experience of grief. The book combines moving narratives from the interviewees with sound research, analysis, and theoretical discussion of important issues in thanatology as well as topics such as the influence of the African-American church, gospel music, family grief, medical racism as a cause of death, and discrimination during life and after death.

Price: $
Sold by Kobo Canada