Karl Lagerfeld’s Secrets to Creativity and Productivity

As the legendary German-born fashion designer touches down in New York City to show Chanel’s Métiers d’Art collection, he offers up some characteristically quotable wisdom.
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Karl Lagerfeld Turns Champs-Élysées Red for the Holidays

SEEING RED: Karl Lagerfeld switched on the Christmas lights Thursday night on the Avenue des Champs-Élysées, bathing the street known as “the most beautiful avenue in the world” in red light.
The designer, who helms Chanel and Fendi, in addition to his own Karl Lagerfeld brand, arrived in his Rolls-Royce shortly before 7 p.m., flanked by his personal assistant Sébastien Jondeau. He was greeted by Paris Mayor Anne Hidalgo and Bruno Pavlovsky, president of Chanel SAS, alongside a phalanx of the French luxury brand’s senior staff.

Anne Hidalgo and Karl Lagerfeld 
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Wearing a silver-embroidered peacoat, Lagerfeld greeted a nine-year-old boy and a 13-year-old girl who had been chosen to attend the ceremony by French charity Les Petits Princes, which arranges exceptional experiences for sick children.
After a 10-second countdown, Lagerfeld and Hidalgo, wearing a gold-embroidered black tweed jacket from Chanel’s 2010 Paris-Byzance Métiers d’Art collection, flipped the switch on the holiday decorations at 7:15 p.m., setting off an explosion of metallic confetti.

The holiday lights on the Avenue des Champs-Élysées. 
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The new red color scheme was chosen to match an advertising campaign marking the launch of a limited-edition red bottle of Chanel No.5 perfume available for the holidays. Red banners bearing the label’s double-C

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Fiction: What’s More Appealing: Eight Seasons of ‘Suits’ or Six Volumes of Karl Ove Knausgaard?

With Book 6 of “My Struggle,” the famous Norwegian author completes the saga of his life — a work perfectly suited to the age of the blog.
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Books of The Times: At the Close of Karl Ove Knausgaard’s ‘My Struggle,’ a Magician Loses His Touch

Vital writing and interesting ideas are buried in this endurance test of a novel, which includes a 400-page section about Hitler in addition to Knausgaard’s usual autobiographical musings.
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Kaley Cuoco Marries Karl Cook

The "Big Bang Theory" actress ties the knot with equestrian Karl Cook. Get the details on the wedding and their journey leading up to it!
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Books of The Times: With ‘Spring,’ Karl Ove Knausgaard’s Latest Project Comes Into Focus

In the third of four books addressed to his youngest daughter, Knausgaard returns to form, and to ruthlessness, writing to fight a familial legacy of alienation from the world.
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Karl Lagerfeld to Open First U.S. Store in SoHo Saturday

Karl Lagerfeld is ready to take SoHo by storm.
On Saturday, the Karl Lagerfeld brand will open its first U.S. store at 420 West Broadway in New York, which features a mix of Lagerfeld’s European collection and Karl Lagerfeld Paris, which is a joint venture with G-III Apparel Group.
“The moment seems to be right and the space is great,” Lagerfeld told WWD. He noted that distribution of his signature brand, re-launched in the burgeoning masstige category in 2012, first put down retail roots in Europe and then China. “Our first tests in the U.S. were great.”
Inspired by the designer’s personal home and studio, the 3,230-square-foot store has a sophisticated yet inviting, open feel. Each of the furnishings has an unusual story behind it, from antique mirrors to velvet chairs and luxurious marble finishes to the giant Tokidoki silver cartoon sculpture of Lagerfeld — with a ponytail — holding his famous feline, Choupette. A bespoke carpet has a red border around its edges, similar to the border that the designer draws on all of his sketches. A full-size photograph of Lagerfeld, wearing fingerless gloves and chains, and taking a photo with his camera, greets visitors at the entrance.
One highlight is a library wall inspired by

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Kaley Cuoco and Fiancé Karl Cook Are Eager to Tie the Knot: ‘We Don’t Want to Wait Much Longer’

It’s not just puppy love for Kaley Cuoco.

The Big Bang Theory star, 32, gushed about fiancé Karl Cook at Saturday’s Paw Works’ James Paw 007 Ties & Tails Gala, where she shared hosting duties with Brad Goreski.

“He is my perfect match,” she told PEOPLE. “He lets me wake up in the morning and say, ‘I want to go and rescue rabbits.’ And he’s like, ‘Alright, let’s get a coffee and let’s go.’ And that is him. We are the same, our views are the same, our morals are the same, he is my perfect match.”

Cuoco added that while it was practically love at first sight, those feelings only grew as the couple got to know each other more.

“We connected very quickly, but I only found out over time how similar we both were, how similar that we are,” she said. “I thought, ‘Oh, my God, this guy…’ I think that I used to think that opposites attract, but in my situation, us being so similar and liking the same things, it really works for us.”

Since getting engaged in November, just over two years after Cuoco went through a very divorce from Ryan Sweeting, she said the couple is more and more eager to tie the knot.

“It’s going great! We can’t wait!” the actress said of getting ready. “We are really, honestly excited, we don’t want to wait much longer. We both really want to do this, we are so happy, and we want to move forward in our life.”

She also revealed, “I can honestly say that all of the animals will be part of our wedding, for sure.”

The longtime animal lover — her Instagram is full of adorable animal snaps, including her three rescue dogs, two rabbits and horses — joined the board of the Paw Works. 

“This amazing non-profit, they save thousands of dogs and cats, get them amazing homes, take them off of death row, and create a new life for them. And they do it in a beautiful way! They make them look beautiful, they help them get healthy give them all of their shots, and all of this great stuff,” she said. “It’s really amazing, time-consuming, heartfelt work that I can try and be the voice for, but when you actually see what the people are doing behind the scenes, it’s pretty magical.”


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Karl Templer Responds to Model Allegations in Open Letter

Last week, I was mentioned in a Boston Globe investigation into the sexual exploitation of models in the fashion industry. This industry, like others, is far from perfect. I fully support the “#Me Too” movement in its determination to shine a light on bad behavior and to call out any man using his power and position to take advantage of those with whom they work. But I also believe that anyone accused of that sort of inappropriate behavior deserves the right to be heard — and that transparency and justice must apply to the accused as well as the accusers.
If I’ve ever inadvertently treated a model disrespectfully or without due care on a job, I’m truly sorry. My work as a stylist includes adjusting clothes on a model. If I have ever made adjustments too quickly or brusquely, and my conduct was misunderstood, then I sincerely apologize. But I categorically deny ever acting with any wrongful intent. That suggestion is untrue. Over nearly 30 years, working with thousands of models, always in public settings, I have never engaged in (and it has never before been suggested that I have engaged in) inappropriate behavior of any kind with models. A stylist’s movement of clothes multiple times — over three

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Rita Ora Rates Karl Lagerfeld’s Beard

RAINDROPS ON ROSES: The couture week rain clouds finally parted for Chanel’s French garden-themed couture show on Tuesday, with guests including Rita Ora, Marion Cotillard, Isabelle Huppert and Anna Mouglalis in attendance.
But not everyone was happy about it.
“I was trying to do a rain dance this morning because I really wanted it to rain,” sighed Ellie Bamber, dressed in a checked minidress and frilly sheer plastic cape. The actress, who is about to start filming a BBC adaptation of Victor Hugo’s novel “Les Misérables,” in which she’ll play Cosette, described the show as an “emotional experience.” “With the music and the set, it’s so fairy-tale and beautiful. And I loved all the collection’s details, down to the boots with the Perspex heels, the bits of sparkle and flowers.”
A hirsute Sébastien Tellier shared his opinion on Karl Lagerfeld’s new beard, which has been the talk of the town since he showed it at the Dior Homme show on Saturday.
“It’s a cool look for him, it’s a bit sauvage,” said the singer, whose album with Dita Von Teese is due out on Valentine’s Day.
Rita Ora said Lagerfeld’s whiskers fit with his general color scheme. “It’s amazing, I mean he can do no

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Karl Lagerfeld’s Caroline Lebar on the Art of Tarts

QUEEN OF TARTS: The ever-disciplined Karl Lagerfeld may not be partial to pastry himself, but the designer on Thursday threw open the doors of the Saint-German flagship of his namesake brand for the launch of the second volume of tart recipes by his longtime communications director Caroline Lebar.
Fans including Nicole and Jean-Jacques Picart got in line to have copies of the book signed as Lebar’s son Louis Cussec — aka DJ Kuss — manned a set of decks at the store’s entrance.

Jean-Jacques and Nicole Picart 
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Lagerfeld, who was on a shoot, could not attend the book signing in person but lent his support by phone, even if pies are not his thing.
“I’ve never had him try one. Besides, I only make them when I’m in the country,” said an upbeat Lebar, who confessed that she’s relatively new to the baking game. She first dabbled in pastry after buying a country house four years ago.

Louis Cussec 
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“Before that I had never made a tart in my life, but we had fruit in the garden and I didn’t want to see it going to waste. I would buy ready-made pastry from the local store and started posting tarts on my Instagram account for

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Karl Lagerfeld Talks Jewelry, Weinstein — and Acupuncture

Karl Lagerfeld hosted an intimate lunch gathering at his Left Bank showroom on Monday to celebrate the launch of a limited-edition jewelry collection of six Art Deco-inspired designs as part of his ongoing collaboration with the Swarovski Group.
Consisting of a collar necklace, cuff, chandelier earrings, two oversized rings and a brooch, the collection is due to go on sale on Tuesday at Karl Lagerfeld stores in London, Paris, Vienna, Dubai and Düsseldorf, with prices ranging from 129 euros to 799 euros. It will also be available for preorder at karl.com.
Each design has been produced in a limited edition of 25, numbered and engraved with the designer’s signature on the inside.
“My favorite piece in the collection with Swarovski is the bracelet,” Lagerfeld said, referring to the cuff with graphic black bands. He declined to delve into the inspiration behind the designs, which feature geometric patterns and a graphic letter “K” motif.
“I never talk shop,” he shrugged. “Because [French philosopher] Voltaire said everything that needs an explanation isn’t worth the explanation — so you look at it, and what interests us is your judgment, not mine.”
The designer was happy, however, to run guests through his choice of accessories for the day: his

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Karl Lagerfeld to Deck the Halls at Claridge’s in London

KRISTMAS KARL: Karl Lagerfeld is the latest creative type to design the Claridge’s Christmas tree, which will be unveiled in the hotel lobby on the morning of Nov. 22.
“Christmas trees are the strongest ‘souvenir’ of my happy childhood,” said Lagerfeld who was born in Hamburg, Germany.
This is the eighth year that Claridge’s has invited a designer to re-interpret the tree in their distinctive style, with past collaborators coming from a variety of creative industries.
Last year, Apple’s chief design officer Sir John Ive and Marc Newson — a designer who works across multiple disciplines, from furniture to aircraft and yachts — were tapped for the occasion.
The Claridge’s Christmas tree has become a holiday landmark in London, drawing large numbers of visitors.
In the past, tree designers have also included Alber Elbaz, John Galliano and Burberry’s Christopher Bailey, who adorned his tree with metallic umbrellas from top to bottom.

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Karl Lagerfeld on Longevity, Work Ethic and Creativity

Karl Lagerfeld needs no introduction. It stands to reason that everyone in the room to see Lagerfeld receive the John B. Fairchild Honor on Tuesday evening is well aware of his legendary work for Fendi and Chanel — not to mention his own label. In conversation with WWD’s executive editor Bridget Foley, Lagerfeld talked about what has made his decades-spanning tenures at Fendi and Chanel possible. A big part of it: hands-off management and cushy work conditions. Lagerfeld has never had to rush to the subway at 7 a.m.
Perhaps the audience was slightly less familiar with Lagerfeld’s pre-Chanel history. The John B. Fairchild Honor was far from the designer’s first experience with the man after which the award is named. As Lagerfeld recalled, he first met the legendary chairman and editorial director in the late Fifties, when both lived in Paris, Lagerfeld working at Patou and Fairchild managing WWD’s bureau there. “He was not really keen on what I did,” said Lagerfeld of Fairchild. “Because, you know, I must admit I was bored to death.” At Patou he was required to create only two collections of 56 dresses a year.
“That is not a lot for a young man,” he said.

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Vans x Karl Lagerfeld Is the Ultimate High-Low Fashion Mashup

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Books of The Times: In ‘Autumn,’ Karl Ove Knausgaard Shows His Sweet Side

Knausgaard’s latest book, the first in a planned quartet, closely describes the material world for his daughter.
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Karl Lagerfeld’s Newest Capsule Collection

Karl Lagerfeld has a new capsule collection for his own line, for which he, and sometimes his cat Choupette, serve as the sole muses. To that end the new line is called Karl the Photographer, and includes ready-to-wear and accessories featuring Lagerfeld and Choupette in selfies, photo booth pics, Polaroids and pixelated abstracts. The collection riffs on Lagerfeld’s career as an accomplished photographer — he shoots all the campaigns for his own collection and has shot campaigns for Chanel, Fendi, Dior Homme and others, along with editorial shoots, and a slew of artistic projects for exhibitions or books.
“Photography is part of my life,” Lagerfeld said in a statement.
Karl the Photographer rtw includes a satin bomber jacket, silk blouses, sweatshirts, T-shirts, a silk dress and relaxed fit jeans, all in black and white, some with silver foil details and rhinestone appliqués. For accessories, there are two styles of zip-top totes, a leather camera crossbody bag with perforated details, a glittery camera minaudière, and a mini leather backpack. More merchandise includes keychains, phone cases and a printed scarf. Part of Lagerfeld’s pre-fall collection, the capsule launched earlier this week and is available at Karl Lagerfeld stores, select wholesale partners and karl.com.

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Karl Lagerfeld to Cohost the Serpentine Summer Party in London

PARTY WITH KARL: Karl Lagerfeld will cohost this year’s Serpentine summer party in London, alongside the Serpentine Galleries’ new chief executive officer Yana Peel and artistic director Hans Ulrich Obrist.
The invitation to the party, which is taking place on June 28 at the Serpentine Gallery in Kensington Gardens, features a handwritten note by the designer: “The Summer Party 2017” in smudgy green watercolor crayon.
The Serpentine Gallery has always drawn leading figures of the fashion industry, with previous hosts including Tommy Hilfiger, Christopher Kane, Brioni and the late L’Wren Scott. It draws celebrity figures such as Kate Moss, Thandie Newton and David Furnish.
Each year the party takes place in and around a specially designed pavilion, which then remains open for a series of evening talks and events that are open to the public. The architect Diébédo Francis Kéré has been commissioned to design this year’s pavilion. His design promises to be bold and bring his characteristic sense of light and life to Kensington Gardens.
This is the first time the party will be hosted by Peel since her appointment as the gallery’s new ceo, taking over from Julia Peyton-Jones.
During a talk cohosted with Porter magazine at the gallery, she laid out her vision

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Karl Lagerfeld Interviews French Astronaut in Space

ROCKET MAN: Karl Lagerfeld has revealed the real inspiration behind his space-themed show for Chanel in March: French astronaut Thomas Pesquet, who has kept the nation in thrall with his regular reports from the International Space Station since November.
The designer hooked up with the cosmonaut for a remote interview broadcast on French radio France Info on Saturday, in which he asked him everything from what he eats, how he washes and how often he works out.
“I admire [him]. In fact, he has even inspired fashion since I was indirectly inspired not only by where he is, but also by his personality, because I think he is more charismatic than his predecessors,” Lagerfeld said.
The designer installed a giant rocket (35 meters/115 feet high) inside the Grand Palais in Paris for his spectacular fall ready-to-wear display.
“I am very flattered that Karl Lagerfeld draws inspiration from space for his collections,” Pesquet said. “Thankfully he did not draw inspiration from astronauts’ outfits, because obviously here, we tend to wear European Space Agency polo shirts and pants with Velcro fastenings, which is not that great.
“But it’s good. It means space makes people dream, that people are interested in exploration and science, and that’s a good

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How Karl Lagerfeld Became the Master of the Celebrity Fashion Universe–and Why Hollywood Still Can’t Get Enough of Him

Chanel, Karl Lagerfeld, Muses, Kristen Stewart, Kendall Jenner, Sarah Jessica Parker, Blake Lively, Keira KnightleyFor all of the acting superlatives deservedly bestowed on Meryl Streep over the years, she’s never really been known for her fashion.
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Karl Lagerfeld Is Never Satisfied

At 83, Lagerfeld—the longest-running, hardest-working designer in fashion—has reluctantly achieved iconic status. But celebrity hasn’t dulled the Chanel artistic director’s passion for chasing what’s new and thinking he can do better.
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‘My Struggle: Book 5,’ by Karl Ove Knausgaard

In the fifth volume of his autobiographical novel, Karl Ove Knausgaard struggles with shame and fear of failure.
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Karl Lagerfeld Photo Expo Bows in Paris

PARIS — “He knows exactly what he has in the frame. There are no accidents, no surprises.”
So says Eric Pfrunder, image director of Chanel and co-curator of “Karl Lagerfeld, a Visual Journey,” a sprawling and diverse photo exhibition that opens at the Pinacothèque de Paris art gallery here Friday and runs through March 20.
Pfrunder knows better than anyone. In January 1987, when Chanel’s couturier complained to him about the quality of some press-kit photos, Pfrunder dared him do better. “I said to Karl, ‘OK, now you do it,’” he recalled on Thursday during a walk-through of the spare, dimly lit showcase.
Of course, Lagerfeld has never stopped shooting – campaigns, editorials and artistic imagery — always choosing the best location, the best lighting and without any waffling, according to Pfrunder.
“Karl has an eye,” he marveled. “He’s not taking 300 shots. He’s doing five, maybe six. Generally, it’s the first frame that is the best. He’s very fast because he has one vision, and that’s it.”
While Lagerfeld is reluctant to describe his photographic style, Pfrunder cited a storytelling approach, and a distinct “atmosphere” heightened by strong contrast. “When it’s black, he likes it deep black,” he said, pointing to a never-before-seen nude series of

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Karl Lagerfeld to Get Photo Exhibition in Paris

KARL IN THE FRAME: Karl Lagerfeld trains his camera on wherever his varied interests take him: fashion, architecture, Paris at night and all manner of personalities.
All that and more will be reflected in “Karl Lagerfeld: A Visual Journey,” an exhibition of his photography slated to open Oct. 16 and run until March 20 at the Pinacothèque de Paris, a private museum just behind the Madeleine Church.
The showcase is being chosen by publisher Gerhard Steidl and Eric Pfrunder, image director at Chanel and one of the designer’s chief image collaborators, who in 1987 encouraged Lagerfeld to try his hand shooting the photos for a Chanel press kit. That would open up a new career path for the German designer, who would go on to shoot campaigns for Chanel, Fendi, Dior Homme and others, along with editorial shoots, and a slew of artistic projects for exhibitions or books.
“People always want to know about my style of photography. I can’t answer that,” according to Lagerfeld. “That’s up to viewers to decide. I don’t have a style, but several, or none. You should never stay still, neither in life, nor in fashion, nor in photography.”
Similarly, Lagerfeld experiments with all kinds of photographic and printing

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Karl Lagerfeld Unveils First Kids Collection

CHILD’S PLAY: Kids and grown-ups munched on cotton candy and Karl Lagerfeld-stamped marshmallows at an event to present the new Karl Kids collection on Wednesday at Karl Lagerfeld’s headquarters in Paris.
Workshops for kids included one to make a key chain in the shape of Karl Lagerfeld’s profile and a pattern coloring workshop where kids could dress a Karl Lagerfeld figurine.
Lagerfeld’s fashions are now offered for boys and girls from newborn up to 16 years old, along with a range of accessories including black gloves, a black tie and a Choupette headband, named after Lagerfeld’s pet cat.
The feline also appears as the whiskered logo festooned on the clothes.
Lagerfeld’s signature kids’ wear collection is set for spring 2016 retailing, with France’s Groupe CWF having the global license.
Selected pieces will be available at children’s e-retailer Melijoe in December before the full collection rolls out to multibrand stores and department stores internationally in January.
French actress Céline Sallette came with her 6-year-old daughter Alice. “She wants to decide what she wears now,” Sallette uttered with a sigh, while browsing the collection.
The actress has a flurry of films set for release by year-end including “Les Rois du Monde” and “Cessez-le-feu” with Romain Duris as well as the second season of

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Sources: Karl reaches deal to coach Kings

George Karl has reached a deal to become the next coach of the Sacramento Kings, league sources confirmed to ESPN.com on Thursday.
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Karl Lagerfeld Taps Cartoonist Tiffany Cooper for Capsule Collection

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Tiffany Cooper was invited by Karl Lagerfeld to create a capsule collection featuring her drawings of the designer and his famous pet Choupette.

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Karl Lagerfeld Tapped for Hyères Festival

The designer is to handle artistic direction, with Chanel studio head Virginie Viard as president of the fashion jury.

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The Love Advice That Shocked Expert Karl Pillemer

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By Suzanne Gerber

You’d think that nothing could shock Karl Pillemer, when it comes to the lives of older folks. After all, the distinguished gerontologist, family sociologist, Cornell University professor and leading researcher on aging (he runs the Cornell Legacy Project) wrote the 2011 bestseller 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice for the Wisest Americans.

And yet, he says, “I was surprised at how important sex is to a couple’s relationship even into their 80s and 90s. I shouldn’t have been, but I was also hit over the head by how open and willing older people are to talk about sexuality with an interviewer.”

Pillemer is referring to the thousands of hours of interviews he and his team conducted for his latest book, 30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationship, and Marriage. Over the course of two years, they talked with some 700 folks whose marriages lasted an average of 43 years and came away with valuable lessons for everyone — including himself.

View From the Finish Line

Published this month, “30 Lessons for Loving” picks up where the first book left off, but instead of offering advice on a host of topics, this one, as the title suggests, focuses on love and marriage. Pillemer chose that subject partly in a leap of faith and partly because of the strong feedback he was receiving from readers.

The leap of faith was the result of the research he kept encountering. “Study after study showed that people in their 70s, 80s and beyond were actually happier than younger people,” he says.

And the data shows that successful relationships are very important to the next generations, leading Pillemer to conclude that “marriage is here to stay. Nearly 100 percent of young people plan to get married and think it’s a good thing. I know they’re receptive to hearing advice from people who made it 50 years because they’ve got credibility.”

Readers were also writing to him asking for more material on love and marriage. One woman told Pillemer she gave a copy of the first book to her son when he got engaged and at the wedding the couple had a “Lessons for Living” station, where guests were invited to leave comments. Dozens of other readers told Pillemer they gave their children copies and bookmarked the lesson, “Don’t Rush Into Marriage,” as a not-so-subtle hint. Thus, 30 Lessons for Loving was born.

A Dangerous Experiment

According to Pillemer, this is the first time in history that young people have little to no contact with older people except maybe a grandparent. “New data shows that less than one-third of people over 65 have had meaningful conversations with people under 30 in the previous month,” he says. “Take out family, and it’s less than 5 percent. People are more likely to have friends of another race than friends more or less than 10 years apart.”

Not only is this shocking to Pillemer, it’s deeply disheartening. “I think we’re in the midst of a dangerous experiment,” he says. “This is the most age-segregated society that’s ever been. Vast numbers of younger people are likely to live into their 90s without contact with older people. As a result, young people’s view of aging is highly unrealistic and absurd. “

So now, Pillemer says, “I’m focusing on older people’s wisdom and helping creating positive new images. That’s one of the reasons for this book.”

Love and Marriage

Lessons for Loving is divided into five sections — Lessons for Finding a Mate, Communication and Conflict, Getting Over the Hard Parts, Keeping the Spark Alive and Thinking Like an Expert About Love. Each of these is further broken down into six lessons, such as “Give Up Grudges” and “Accept Your Partner As Is.”

The book reads like a candid and entertaining advice column, which is precisely what Pillemer intended. “As an academic I had to learn to write in a whole new genre that I felt younger people could use,” he says. He succeeded. The book is eminently readable.

The “experts” — the author’s solution to the dilemma of what to call folks in this age range — had surprising and enlightening things to say.

Pillemer recently got to put one such gem of wisdom, from a 71-year-old interviewee named April, to good use. When he and his wife were having what he calls persistent and irreconcilable differences about a bathroom renovation, he recalled the woman’s words: “It’s important to let some things go, to figure out what matters and what really doesn’t matter. If [my husband and I] were in some sort of struggle, we would stop and say, “Which one of us is this more important to?” And when we could figure that out, the other one found it so much easier to let go.”

In describing his bathroom drama, he says, “My wife wanted a claw-foot tub, and I wanted a stall shower. The disagreements went on and on until I recalled April’s advice and realized how important the tub was to my wife. So I let her have it. It might sound small, but it was huge to us.”

The best thing about researching and writing this book, Pillemer adds, was the long view it’s afforded him. “It never hit me before, but marriage is really a discipline, where you agree to forgo something for long-term success.”

His other big takeaway: “I have a renewed sense of hopefulness that we can keep things vibrant and exciting.”

Now, that’s exciting.

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